Teaching Kids to Manage Valentine's Day Expectations
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2. Love Yourself
In advance of the big day, remind your child that not receiving a Valentine doesn’t mean she is less loveable than anyone else. Your worth is never determined by how others ‘rate’ you. Rather, true self-worth comes from within yourself.
3. The Golden Rule
Help your child to be thoughtful about distributing Valentines so that he doesn’t accidentally omit one or two people, resulting in hurt feelings. Inclusion is almost always a better choice than exclusion.
4. Keep Calm
Remind your child that it is not appropriate to cry, yell, or throw a tantrum if she doesn’t receive an expected Valentine. Instead, it can be beneficial to discuss hurt feelings with a parent or other adult. Every child needs help learning how to keep hurt feelings in perspective and not overreact.
5. Carry On
If your child expresses disappointment about his Valentine’s Day, do your best to help him understand that Valentine’s Day is only a blip in time. Explain that there will be many, many other opportunities in life to give and receive real love and friendship.
Dr. Susan Bartell is a Long Island-based, nationally recognized child psychologist, speaker, and award-winning author. Her latest book is The Top 50 Questions Kids Ask. Read more of Dr. Bartell’s advice at nymetroparents.com/bartell.