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by Brooke Nalle

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Sleeping and falling back asleep after waking up in the middle of the night are skills that babies need to learn. To help, pediatric sleep consultant Brooke Nalle of Sleepy On Hudson details the various sleep training methods and encourages parents to choose the one that fits their lifestyle the best.

Sleeping InfantYou should only start when you are ready to truly carry out your plan from start to finish. Consistency on your part minimizes crying and reduces anxiety for your sleeper.

Here is a quick look at sleep teaching or training methods that are presently out there. Please keep in mind that there are variations on all of these.

1. Full Extinction, aka, cry it out. 
You put your baby in the crib while she is still awake, ideally unswaddled and without a pacifier, and you leave her to discover how to self soothe, translation: calm down on her own until she falls asleep. When she wakes during the night, you don’t go in and instead let her put herself back to sleep.

Some pediatricians say you should start at 14 pounds, 4 months; it’s ok, some say, to wait until 6 months. This method is best done when a baby is younger, preferably not able to stand in the crib. It is also best done when a baby is learning cause and effect (from 4 to 7 months). This method tends to get pretty tough to implement after 7 to 8 months.

2. Time Checks, a.k.a., Ferber or Ferberize.
In this method, you put your baby in the crib awake and leave him to self-soothe. You go in at timed intervals to check on him, calm him down, through touch and/or your voice, and then leave again. You can follow Ferber’s suggestions in his book or make your own plan. I suggest 5 minutes, 7 minutes, 7 minutes, and then every 10 minutes. You do the same thing during night wake-ups. This is a great choice for any age (child needs to be in a crib or with a gate across the door).

3. Gradual Extinction or Fading.
You spend three nights very close to your baby while she falls asleep independently, you can touch her, rub her belly, shush until she goes to sleep. Then, the next three nights, you shift closer to the door and just use your voice, and then you spend the following three nights either just outside the door or in the doorway where your baby can hear you. You then graduate to timed check-ins from the door beginning around day 10 of sleep training'

You follow the same plan during night wake-ups and eventually for naps. This is great for any age, especially for toddlers who sleep in beds.

4. Gentle methods
Elizabeth Pantley’s No Cry Sleep Solution Method includes a lot of picking your baby up and then putting her down until she goes to sleep; or Harvey Karp’s Awake to Sleep Method, where you have your baby fall asleep in your arms, and then gently wake him up as he goes into the crib. These methods are best for young babies, 4- to 7-month-olds.

Ultimately, the best method for you is the one that you can carry out with confidence and consistency.

Brooke Nalle, mother of three, is the founder and pediatric sleep consultant at Sleepy On Hudson. She has a master's in education and has advanced training in sleep training 4- and 5-month-olds. Nalle has worked with parents in New York City, Westchester County, Connecticut, Philadelphia, Los Angeles, among others.


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