How To Become Your Child’s Biggest Fan
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Children are impressionable. If you want to be your child's biggest fan take a bird-on-the-shoulder approach. This is a discrete approach to parenting that focuses on working at his or her own pace; listening; guiding; and assisting your child throughout their development as an athlete. If it hasn't happened already, you will, inevitably, need to help your child work through the physical, psychological and emotional stresses related to sports. When your child can freely turn to you without repercussion, you will share with your child all the gifts and life lessons that sports have to offer.
The bird-on-the-shoulder approach is a healthy replacement to the win-at-all-cost bulldozer approach, which finds parents becoming overbearing, controlling, and manipulative of their child. Do not let the social pressures to win happen at the expense of your child. Learn to truly be your child's biggest fan. Think of yourself as a birdie instead of a bulldozer.
Here are five healthy ways researchers suggest encouraging your child in sport:
1. Emphasize fun and participation
2. Define winning as a level of effort, not the score of the game
3. Measure improvement of skill, not by comparison to other children
4. Maintain open communication with the child throughout the sports experience
5. Let the child experience the dynamics of sport at his or her own pace
Finally, as your child's biggest fan, SMILE. Your child works hard every day to make you proud. A smile can impact a child in ways that you may never have thought of, by inspiring an inner strength and helping fuel a maximum effort.
BRAD KAYDEN is a Child Wellness Advocate who consults in the areas of creativity, leadership and group development. He is a Youth Sports Instructor, specializing in athletic programming for kids 10 and under. His pro-sport platform educates parents on the culture of youth sports and teaches how athletics translates into life skills for children.