Never sign anything--except the attendance sheet. This is definitely something to remember. If they ask you to sign something else, tell them you want to review it at home; you are allowed to say this. Before you leave the meeting, ask them to give you a copy of the attendance sheet as well.
Don’t let them rush you. If these meetings are still new to you, you may hear words and terms that are not completely familiar to you. Feel free to ask them to explain everything. That is their job. Remind them, if necessary, that this is your child who is being discussed, not an abstract idea. If time runs out and you feel like you need more time, you can ask for a reconvene, or an additional meeting, to continue the discussion.
Discuss placements. If you have already visited potential schools, let them know. Give them details as to what you saw and why it would not work for your child. Let them know that you have been proactive about the situation. Ask them to discuss their ideas about possible placements for your child. Remember, nothing is set in stone at this time but this is definitely something that should be discussed.
These are some of the things I always do at my son’s IEP meeting, I hope they may help guide you to a smoother, more successful IEP meeting of your own.