Now, help your child come up with two or three short- and long-term ways of achieving the resolution. As a rule, short-term goals should see results within a few weeks; long-term goals may take months or longer to achieve. Encourage patience in achieving one goal at a time.
Using ‘make more friends’ as an example, short-term goals could be:
1. Make a list of three possible friends
2. Start saying hello to them at school
3. Ask if I can sit with them at lunch/snack time.
Long-term goals could include:
1. Ask someone over to play/hang out
2. Go to a new friend’s home
3. Invite a new friend for a sleepover.
As your child is mastering this skill, you might want to try it yourself. You may find that you are able to stick to your resolutions, too!
DR. SUSAN BARTELL is a nationally recognized child, teen and parenting psychologist and award-winning author. Her latest book is Healthy Kids The Easy Way. You can learn more about Dr. Bartell at www.drsusanbartell.com.