Touch your partner.
Touch is one of the most primeval ways to communicate with another person. Long before there were words, scientists say, humans beings communicated with gestures and touch. Animals still do. We know the importance of touch with our babies, that touch encourages bonding and trust. Take that same perspective with your partner. Hug them when they walk in the door, take their hand in the store, wrap yourself around them when you go to sleep at night. Touching your partner will speak volumes about the love that you have for them.
Be kind to your partner.
I know this seems basic, but it is something that gets lost in the chaos of family a life. I know, from personal experience, that as our family grew, as my life became more stressful, I took it out on my husband—I nit picked and nagged and snapped and even yelled at him for things that were often not his fault. And I saw the hurt in his eyes every time I did it. I would take it all back if I could. My not being kind to him created a chasm between us that was hard to repair
Give your partner freedom.
You know the saying “If you love someone let them go.” Often, amidst the chaos of every day life, we cling to our partners as a life raft, needing them with us always to keep us from drowning in the messiness. This clinginess can actually drive someone away, however, because your partner will become resentful of your need to constantly have them by your side. Both of you should regularly have some time away from the chaos, sometimes together and sometimes apart. We were all individuals once, before we became a couple and then a family, and it’s important to nurture that individual in ourselves, so that we can be a better partner and a better parent.