Local Parents Share How They Are Learning to Let Go
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These feelings are not just limited to raising kids in an urban area. A mother of three who is raising her children (ranging from 4-17) in Rockland, Merianne Jackson, founder of Chic Mom, says she is still searching for a place in the neighborhood where she feels comfortable and safe with her children. One of the best ways to help secure a place like this, she says, is to “become involved and get to know the other parents really well, so that in case I must leave [the kids], I am comfortable.”
Set up open lines of communication.
Finding a safe place for your kids is a two-way street. Both children and parents should feel comfortable about the venue. Ron Steingard, M.D., a child psychiatrist at the Child Mind Institute, stresses the importance of having open and direct conversations with your children as the first step toward feeling confident about dropping your child off without your supervision.
You have to have some degree of structure, try things in small pieces first, and have lots of discussion about it. Keep this communication open. You want them to feel comfortable and you want to be that ultimate safe place, so that you become the floor they walk on," Dr. Steingard says. “You can’t assume their expectations are the same as yours. You need to set the stage before you drop them off. Discuss where they’re going, set a time for arrival, a time for departure…Think about how the day will go and what they can expect…and prepare for that.”