Co-Parenting in a Pandemic: Apps and Advice
Here are co-parenting apps and advice that will help your family create and stick to a plan that everyone will be happy with, even in a pandemic.
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Be practical and precise. Leave the emotion out of discussions and decisions as much as possible. “I also suggest that communication between the parties be in a written form,” says Steven J. Mandel, a family law attorney in NYC. According to past presiding judge of Riverside County, Sherrill Ellsworth, When it comes to making compromises and big decisions, pull away from the emotion of the past, suggests Steven J. Mandel, a family law attorney in NYC.
Put yourself in your kids’ shoes. Children should have an open relationship with both parents—and never feel like the go-betweens. “A major problem arises when the parents prevent that relationship from happening and then put the children in the middle,” Helfand says.
Skip the good-cop, bad-cop scenario. It’s very common for kids to play the “mommy vs. daddy” game. “That is why it is in the best interests of all concerned for everyone to be on the same page,” Mandel says.
Make kids feel treasured. Kids should feel like both parents are choosing to spend time with them. “We use the words who ‘gets to’ be with [our daughter] rather than who ‘has to’ be with her.” Klein says.
Reassure your child. Assure your children that everyone must adapt to these uncomfortable changes, David Hill, M.D., FAAP and Jann Blackstone, PsyD suggest. Remind them that you will come out of this as a family, some changes are only temporary, and that they are loved by both parents.
Consider your legacy. Ellsworth encourages co-parents to consider what they want their legacy to be. Remember that their kids deserve better, and it’s crucial that parents put their children in the center of their thoughts, rather than in the center of their disputes and obstacles. Now is a time to better yourself, and your relationship with your co-parent.
5 Co-Parenting Apps to Make Life Easier:
The goal of this app is to help eliminate conflicts and focus on raising happy and healthy children. It allows parents to manage events, appointments, documents, expenses, schedules and messaging.
This app helps keep communication between co-parents as pleasant as possible. It lets families share messages, events, expenses, and important information. It has a useful “tone-meter” to pick up negative tones in a message and give an alternative that is less likely to start an argument.
This is a way to communicate with your co-parent, while helping organize your schedule, keeping track of activities and exchanging information concerning their children. It also offers a messaging service, mediator access and document storage.
Coparently offers all the tools necessary for smooth co-parenting, such as color-coded calendars, a secure messaging center, exportable and printable records, and a shared online directory for important contact information. You can also add your children to the account so they can communicate with you.
This organizational tool lets you create and share calendars, shopping lists, to-do lists and meal plans. There is also a family journal to track milestones. Cozi plays well with other calendar programs like Google Calendar, Outlook, and iCal.