The Best of the Rest of the Web: Sunny Days, Family Vacations, and The Good Mother Myth

From the NYMetroParents March 2014 issues, a selection of thought-provoking, laugh-inducing, and just plain interesting quotes about parenting. This month features Mommy Shorts’ musings on family vacations, an excerpt from “The Good Mother Myth,” one mom’s hope for sunny days ahead, and more.

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“Isn’t it weird how traveling with your parents has suddenly become the ultimate vacation windfall?
I guess built-in babysitters trumps family drama every time.”

—Ilana Wiles (@mommyshorts), a.k.a. everyone’s favorite parent blogger, a working NYC mom of two beautiful girls and chronicler of her adventures and challenges in that role at mommyshorts.com

 

Who Is ‘The Good Mother?’

the good mother myth book“Few women can escape the Good Mother. From the photos of celebrity moms to the articles in parenting magazines, she is everywhere. Our culture endlessly produces messages about what we must do in order to join her ranks, and what happens when we fail. The resulting range of acceptable behavior is about as wide as a slender, steep path up the side of a mountain.”

—Heather Hewett (@heatherhewett), a writer, professor, and mother who lives in the lower Hudson Valley with her family, in “Parenting Without a Rope,” her contribution to the stellar essay collection The Good Mother Myth (Seal Press), which adds a depth to the narrative of motherhood we don’t tend to see in the headlines

 

#SnowDays

“Since I don’t see schools or jobs getting more flexible just because they should—or even because they might like to—I guess I just have to hope that 2014 doesn’t bring any more disruptive weather events. How about that? Hoping for sunny days as a parenting technique?”

—Sarah Smith (@SarahTheEditor), magazine editor and Manhattan mom to a baby boy, venting her frustrations about the myriad ways extended care hours and other work-life accommodations rarely adequately accommodate working parents, in a Mamarama blog post at redbookmag.com

 

“I have opinions on everything—deep opinions, almost all of them absolutely correct.”

—JoAnn Deak, Ph.D. (deakgroup.com), a preeminent educator and psychologist whose work in recent years has focused on the role of parents as significant “brain sculptors” of children, at the 92nd Street Y’s Parenting Conference (#92YParenting); the irony in her statement, of course, is that she rarely offers her opinions, only advice grounded in the most impeccable brain science and research available. Watch a video of her 2014 92Y talk, about gender differences between boys and girls, at 92y.org/parentingconf; and hear her weigh in about “the incredible, elastic brain” at nymetroparents.com/deak.

 

 

Twitter Talk @NYMetroParents

?@divamoms: LEGO Ad From 1981 Should Be Required Reading For Everyone Who Makes, Buys Or Sells Toys huff.to/1hyP3h4 via ?@HuffPostParents ?#Love

@kjmeow: Have I done the “hot dog dance” from Mickey Mouse every day for three years? Yes. Can it go on a resume? No.

@MomsRising: Workplace flex gives families ‘daddy hours’ over long run of parenting, says @NanetteFondas @HarvardBiz tinyurl.com/mfmg8pw

@mrdad: Surviving and Thriving in Step Families goo.gl/lAA9NX

@HonestToddler: Baked french toast is why you shouldn’t get recipes and ecards from the same website. #pinterest

 

 

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New York Society of Play Summer Camp and Classes

<p dir="ltr"><strong>Summer Game Camp</strong></p> <p dir="ltr">There are many who do not feel safe sending their children back out into the world with summer camp, this year. To serve those parents and keep the children connected and stimulated during this challenging time, we are offering NYSP Digital Summer Camp. The name of the game with NYSP Summer Camp is community. We have made a large effort to make our camp feel like a living space, with features including –</p> <p dir="ltr">- Role-Playing games familiar and new, led by our master storytellers!</p> <p dir="ltr">- Enriching electives such as Chess, World Building, Character Acting, Crafts, Drawing, and more!</p> <p dir="ltr">- Discussion and media screening rooms during lunch!</p> <p dir="ltr">- A digital campus!</p> <p dir="ltr">- Moderated chat hours!</p> <p dir="ltr"> </p> <p dir="ltr">Join us for a summer of games, friends, and more!</p> <p dir="ltr">Mon - Fri 10am - 2:30pm</p> <p dir="ltr"> </p> <p dir="ltr"><strong>Roleplay Expeditions: Dungeons & Dragons</strong></p> <p dir="ltr">No experience is required to join one of our Dungeons & Dragons games. Our game masters have pre-made character sheets, so you'll be able to start playing the game right away! We adapt the rules of traditional Dungeons & Dragons to make them more approachable to children of various ages. Battle in dungeons, search for relics, and make new friends in our one-of-a-kind Dungeons & Dragons workshop! </p> <p dir="ltr"> </p> <p dir="ltr">Public games meet once per week, with different groups every time. Private games meet 1 to 2 times per week with the same group of kids. Since the players and the storyteller in the group are consistent, this enables us to tell epic tales of adventure together!</p> <p dir="ltr"> </p> <p dir="ltr"><strong>Dungeons & Dragons Junior</strong></p> <p dir="ltr">No experience is required to join one of our drop-in Dungeons & Dragons games. Our Dungeons & Dragons Jr. game provides a D&D storytelling experience without character sheets. Battle in dungeons, search for relics, and make new friends in our one-of-a-kind Dungeons & Dragons workshop! A great way to introduce young children to D&D so they can eventually move onto the main game.</p>

Monster Mini Golf

<p>Upon entering Monster Mini Golf, all perceptions of traditional mini golf will be spirited away by the indoor, 18-hole, monster-theme, glow-in-the-dark miniature golf course! The locations in <a href="https://monsterminigolf.com/deerpark/">Deer Park</a>, and <a href="https://monsterminigolf.com/gardencity/">Garden City, NY</a> invite guests to experience a host of family-oriented fun activities. Whether visiting for the first time or the one hundredth, mini golfers feel the excitement and adventure of playing mini golf amidst spooktacular monsters and custom, glow-in-the-dark, hand-painted artwork. While testing their skill on the fairways, lively music flows over the course from the unique “WEIRD Radio” station” and an interactive DJ entertains golfers with contests, awarding cool prizes for the wackiest reasons. While the course is challenging enough for adults, it is also quite playable for children. Monster Mini Golf is open year-round and frightfully fun for the entire family. In addition to miniature golf and thrilling arcade and redemption games, the locations offer additional attractions. <a href="https://monsterminigolf.com/deerpark/">Monster Mini Golf in Deer Park, NY</a> offers a Laser Maze and a Virtual Reality experience. The Garden City location offers a Laser Maze, Bowling, and a Virtual Reality Experience. Two very posh, private party rooms are also available and are perfect for any event. Monster Mini Golf looks forward to making it a monstrous success. Monster Mini Golf is indoors, ensuring that the event will always take place, regardless of the weather. It is a climate-controlled, affordable source of family entertainment. For more details please visit <a href="http://monsterminigolf.com">monsterminigolf.com</a> or find them on Facebook.</p>

Athletic Association of Yorkville Youths

<p><span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: Arial;" data-sheets-value="{" data-sheets-userformat="{">Serving the families and children of NYC for over 50 years with high-quality recreational activities that foster life-lessons which empower young people to succeed beyond sports. Our programs encourage positive attitudes and growth through teamwork and sportsmanship, attendance, fair play, respect, hard work, integrity and fun. Your child can participate in clinics and leagues in such sports as baseball, basketball, flag-football, lacrosse, soccer, hockey, wrestling, track, and tennis. We also offer weekly dodgeball tournaments, drama and musical theater workshops, and after school programs.</span></p>