Along the way to visiting our first six continents, something magical began to happen. We started to redefine our sense of community. Families of children with disabilities approached us wherever we went, and we felt the instant bond that comes from sharing a common life experience.
One of our most memorable encounters happened in Kampala, the capital of Uganda. One evening, while our family waited outside for a taxi, a man appeared from the darkness, pointed at Kasenya, and demanded to know: “Who is the mother of this child?” I gulped and stepped forward. The man’s voice softened as he explained that his daughter had fallen from a balcony when she was 3 and was now severely disabled. There was sadness in his voice as he talked about how he would never be able to travel with her to his native India. He wanted nothing from us, only a moment to share his story. He thanked us and disappeared into the darkness.
From this and many other experiences we have come to see that all parents share the same concerns and love for our children, no matter where we live. But we also came to realize the real disadvantage that children with disabilities live with in Asia, Africa, and South America.
Early in our travels we were very naive about the conditions of children with disabilities in other parts of the world. We knew they would not necessarily have all the physical resources we have, or near-equal access to therapies. We had no idea, however, just how undervalued these children were in developing countries. It was this realization that spurred us to action.
In 2012, we founded No Ordinary Journey Foundation as a vehicle for helping families in the developing world. In these resource-poor places, people with disabilities, especially children, are the last to benefit from economic growth. Research—and our own personal experiences around the globe—show us that programs to train and educate individuals and families in managing disabilities such as cerebral palsy help lift them from poverty and bring dignity to their lives.
Our first major project: six weeks in Vietnam this summer. While this magazine is in production, our family will be traveling as volunteers, at our own expense. We will be doing education sessions with children and their families at several hospitals throughout the country. We will also be meeting with families in their homes and children who live in orphanages in some of the poorest parts of Vietnam.
We know that we have something special to offer families. There are many charitable organizations that send professionals to do amazing work in the developing world with and for people who have disabilities. We offer something different: Families connect
and identify deeply with us because we live their life. We model ‘poss-abilities’ for them.
Following our passion for travel, we have found a unique way to celebrate Kasenya’s disability. It has led us to our version of an exceptional life.
Your Unique Journey
Every family will have their own unique opportunities to live an exceptional life. It is important to know these two things: that no matter how big and grandiose your dream is, you can achieve it; and it doesn’t need to be big and grandiose to be worthwhile.
My friend Adrienne, also the mom of a child with a disability, once lamented the fact that her family was going on a hot holiday without her son Evan. “You take Kasenya everywhere,” she said. “I feel bad leaving Evan at home.”
“We do take Kasenya everywhere,” I agreed. “That’s our thing. But Evan would be miserable if you took him to Cuba with you. Your thing is taking him to Grandma and Grandpa’s cabin at the lake. He loves that.”
Adrienne is living her own exceptional life and has been an exceptional advocate: making life for people with disabilities better where she lives.
What’s important about exceptional living is to do it your own way. Instead of wishing your family, your lifestyle, or your income were different, work with what you’ve got. By being true to the gifts and resources that you have, you will find your own exceptional life—one that is filled with deep meaning, hope, and enthusiasm.
Laverne Bissky, mother of two (one who has cerebral palsy), inspirational speaker, writer, and life coach, is author of the book Exceptional Parent, Exceptional Life, due to be released in October and available at exceptional-parent.com. She lives in Calgary, Canada with her family. Despite the challenges of traveling with a child in a wheelchair, she and her family have visited every continent except Antarctica…so far. Learn more at bissky.com.