Shake up the routine. Is bath-time your domain? What about books before bed or homework help? Many moms complain that they ‘do everything,’ but, in fact, are reluctant to give up control.
But now it’s time to relinquish one or two of your routines and hand it over to dad. You may be uncomfortable doing so (will he do a good job?), and at first, your child (or even dad) might resist the change. But, stick with it—because for both your child and dad, having the chance to bond over daily routines is invaluable. And remember, it’s good for your child to learn how to adapt to dad doing things in a different way.
Talk it out. Do your best to share big and small decision making with dad as often as possible. Dads want to be a part of their child’s day-to-day life—some of them just don’t realize it because it’s not how they were raised. When dad sees that you want and respect his opinion about his child, it will give him the confidence and encouragement to break free from the stereotypes with which he was raised.
Make new friends. Seek out friendships with other moms who encourage dads to attend parent/teacher conferences, coach little league, and take charge of teeth brushing. Dads who see other dads that are involved will feel good about this role themselves.
The efforts that you make to support this important relationship will pay off, not just now, but for many years to come. Happy Father’s Day!